“Never give up, because the next time
You get to hold your
Significant other in your arms
And squeeze them
Just a little too tight;
The months spent apart will
ALL BE WORTH IT”
Let’s face it, maintaining a long distance relationship is not a child’s play. But the fact is, love doesn’t care about area codes. Sometimes you find that the perfect someone lives in another city, state, country, continent. And while many are apprehensive, whether their relationship will last for a while, some tend to figure out how long they will be able to survive just by sensing the other’s presence in and around whatever they do.
But, here’s a catch! Long distance relationships are much easier to handle if taken in positively. How? Well, there isn’t any such feeling more romantic than being reunited with the one you love after being separated for some time. Distances are good! They create longing, desire, a yearning to be in a physical presence of that special person, something that the daily meeting couples may find lacking in their relationship. Being able to hold the other person’s hand, eating together at the same table, feeling each other’s touch, taking a walk together, smelling each other’s hair… these small wishes could suddenly mean so much more in a long distance relationship Though long distance relationships require more work, it is precisely for that reason that they can be incredibly rewarding. Here’s how to make sure that the strings of togetherness are always connected, though twisted and knotted but never disconnected!
Communicate at the right time. It is unwise to be overly sticky and possessive. You two don’t really have to communicate 24*7 to keep the relationship going. Many couples think that they need to compensate for the distance by doing more. This is not true. And it might only make things worse. Soon you would get tired of “loving.”
Celebrity: Vanessa Hudgens and Boyfriend Austin Butler-Together Since 2011.
Secret Saying: “Communication is Understandable key. If anything’s bothering you, don’t hold it in”. Just be open and keep everything Uncensored.
Advice: Remember: Less is more. It’s really about teasing at the right moments and tugging at the right spots.
Managing expectations-‘No expectations, No heartbreaks’
A relationship is all about respecting each other, providing freedom and space, comforting your partner, and keeping no expectations. Set some ground rules. For instance, is it alright for the other person to go on ‘friendly dates’? What is your commitment level? Is it okay to hang out with your office eye-candy after work? Is it fine to chat and text with ‘ex’s’ or going out with a girl or a guy from your past who has been flirting with you? (I mean it is absolutely fine if both the partners are comfortable with this. This is a wise settlement).
Celebrity: Julianne Hough and fiancé Brooks Laich –Dating since 4 years, now engaged
Secret Sayings: “Expectations are mood spoilers. Do not expect anything of each other during this long distance relationship. Begin with setting some ground rules so that none of you do things that take the other party ‘from surprise- to shock’.”
Advice: You need to recognize the dangers of the situation before entering into one. Never ever expect a lot from a person staying far away in a relationship, this will frustrate him/her, disappoint you and things may get tangled and take a bad shape.
Be silly! Talk dirty
Sexual tension is undoubtedly one of the most important things between couples. Sexual desire is like a glue that keeps both parties from drifting apart. Not only is sex a biological need, it is an emotional one as well. Keep the flames burning by sending each other teasing texts filled with sexual innuendos and provocative descriptions.
Celebrity: Clarie Danes and Husband Hugh Dancy-Married since 2009.
Secret Saying: “I think it’s dangerous when you go into reporting mode when you just kind of list things you’ve done that day. We talk a lot, we text a lot, we send each other photos of our toes — dumb stuff”. This keeps our long distance marriage going.
Advice: Play a bold move, indulge into dirty talks and silly things only when you are comfortable, sure and guilt-free. Do not let the other person control your thoughts and emotions. Trust your instincts precisely, and do what you feel is right. Let your heart decide while brain gives up.
Do things together, creatively.
Play an online game together. Watch a documentary on YouTube or Video at the same time. Sing to each other on Skype while one of you plays the guitar or a violin. Dance together on the same song. Take a walk together outside while video-calling each other. Cook together the same dish at your place individually and compliment the efforts. Go online shopping together — and buy each other some gift. This is a great way to create some shared experiences even though you are living apart. You really have to be creative and spontaneous about it.
Celebrity: Nicole Kidman and Husband Keith Urban –celebrating 11 years of Marital Bliss.
Secret Saying: They say, keep it old school whenever you are away from each other. “For every single night he’s away he leaves me a love letter”. Cute, Isn’t?
Advise: Doing some of these activities together will open up your lonely soles; help you in doing away with solitude; detoxify all the negativity spread throughout the not so happening day; add a little spark to your long distance relationship and provide a new way of doing the old, boring and monotonous things creatively. Laugh a little, to make another laugh loudly.
Plan visits, quite often!
Visits are the highlight of every long distance relationship. After all the waiting and yearning and abstinence, you finally get to meet each other to fulfill all the little things like kissing, holding hands, playing with hair, hanging out etc. which are all common to other couples but so very special and extra intimate for people in long distance relationships. It will be like fireworks, glitter bombs, confetti, rainbows and butterflies everywhere.
Celebrity: Troian Bellisario and now-husband Patrick J. Adams- Dated for 4 Years.
Secret Saying: “Patrick and I always have different adventures planned”. This always helped them in nearing distances, even by staying apart.
Advise: Surprise your partner by showing up at their place, suddenly. Watch his/her face change when they just couldn’t realize that you are standing next to her/him. The feeling of watching your partner cry because of immense pleasure and in turn tightly hugging them, and kissing their forehead is a beautiful experience. Try it quite often!
A long distance relationship is an uphill battle. Extra effort has to go into it in order for it to last, and we hope the above tips can help a few readers keep their distant love until the day they can be happily united in one locale.
Have you had a long-distance relationship? What’s been your experience of what worked and what didn’t work? Leave your comments below, and we will help you cope up with your love.